This topic has come up so many times within the last few weeks. My husband and I have shared our thoughts, and even our study group has spoken on it. Scripture provides answers to judging and how we are to respond. Judging is not just speaking, it is your feelings towards another person and your thoughts of the person.
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:1-2)
“You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.” (Romans 2:1)
It’s sad to say that we judge almost every day. But my point is, how we judge and who we judge.
Ladies, if you saw another woman wearing a beautiful dress and bright red shoes, would you say she looks nice? Or, would you say her shoes are too red and she should not be wearing them? You may not think that is judging, but it is. Judging outward appearances is sinful.
My husband and I tend to disagree on how to handle a particular scenario. We disagree because he thinks judging is what everyone does in a negative way. I disagree because of how to approach the person and the words that are being used.
Here he goes:
My husband has a conversation with this guy he knows that lives a secular way of life. The guy asks my husband why he believes in God. (This could be pages long when my husband talks, so I am trying to shorten it.)
After my husband tells him why he believes in God and what God has done for him, he then explains the importance of believing in Jesus and reading the Bible. But then the guy says to my husband, “It doesn’t matter because I heard God loves everybody, and who cares how I live.”
When my husband comes home, he tells me this conversation (and more) and says this guy is living the wrong way and can’t believe he is doing this.
Now he is mad because he is judging another person.
Here I go:
I tell my husband (not that I am right) that the Holy Spirit helps us to express our words to others graciously. I told him that yes, the guy was right by saying God loves everyone. But, God does not love the sin the person is living.
We need to know the difference between judging in a terrible way and being mean (which is not up to us) compared to helping someone in a loving and caring way that leads them to God. Our testimony may lead someone to God, and we must not judge.
This is just one situation, but it’s important to realize how we are to be there for one another and to disciple.
Christians do this as well, and as a Christian we are to help our brother and sister in Christ. We are to hold one another accountable and rely on Scripture for guidance. Do it with love, grace and with guidance of the Spirit. Speak the truth in love.
In the end, we should not be critical or quick to judge. There is only one Judge.
Stay safe, stay healthy and God Bless 💕